(via One Wisconsin NOW)
After several centuries of brutal anti-black racism and structural white privilege, apparently 50 years of modest civil rights progress was too unbearable for many “aggrieved” white people. Gutting the Voting Rights Act, weakening Affirmative Action and the proliferation of Stand Your Ground laws are each part of an unmistakable conservative effort to return all of America to a pre-civil rights, antebellum confederacy where “states rights,” judicial nullification and Jim Crow etiquette are the norm. Again.
Never underestimate the brutality of privilege and the constant need to be be advantaged by conservative white Americans.
They, generally being the older white male, are worried - no, terrified - about becoming a minority. Gee, I wonder why?
There’s a stark difference between the ways U.S. and UK students pay for college. In the UK, tuition costs are capped at a maximum of about $15,150, which doesn’t need to be paid up front or until after graduation. If funded by English or Welsh funding bodies, students don’t need to pay until they’re earning over $35,350 and the amount owed is tailored to their income. Someone earning around $50,500 would pay $1,353 yearly for their loans. If it’s not paid off in 30 years, it’s written off entirely. Meanwhile, tuition in Scotland is entirely free for students who study in the home country.
I live with this everyday…
"we raise girls to cater to men’s fragile egos"
"we teach girls shame"
Ok. Where? Prove it. Show me.
From what I’ve seen it’s the opposite. We teach boys to walk on eggshells for fear of a female turning into a scene causing screeching banshee
We teach boys that they are more prone to criminality and sexual violence via virtue of having a penis, boys are taught that masculinity is toxic.
females have their value as a human being reaffirmed everyday whether locally or in the wider media. females are lauded for expressing sexual freedom.
Males are seen as untrustworthy if they sleep with a lot of females and god forbid they get one pregnant, he’s an ashsole if he suggests an abortion and a fucker if he can’t afford to take care of the child.
Where are females being silenced and how? Certainly not in schools. In the workplace?
Females say what they want all the time. The problem is that many think they are entitled to people’s ears, and they are not.
Males learn this growing up, that we are accountable for our speech and that we also are not entitled to be listened to, especially if it’s some dumbass shit.
I can dissect this little quote 6 ways from sunday because it’s full of emotion wringing verbiage but with very little examples.
So to sum this shit up two words: prove it.
I completely get where you’re coming from, I really do. Because I used to, and in some ways, still do agree with alot of what you’re saying here. In a previous post you and I got in a disagreement and you told me to look up “Patriarchy Theory” or ”Patriarchy Theory Debunked” and I’m sure you weren’t really expecting me to but I actually did. I read several essays and articles on the topic and the main point they all keep pushing is the very point you bring up here: “But women do have rights. How are women oppressed if they have rights?”
The fact that that question even exists hurts my brain because of the centuries of history it ignores. In an ideal world, what I’m about to say would be such common knowledge that it wouldn’t even need to be used to defend an argument but I guess our schools are failing us and we’re not all receiving the education we need/deserve so here it goes…
Since I took the time to read up on what you suggested to me, I now ask that you return the favor by looking up and educating yourself on the history of The Battered Women’s Movement. In fact, don’t even consider it a favor to me. Consider it a favor… no… an honor to your mother, your grandmother, your great-grandmother, all the women in your life currently as well as your ancestry. Consider it a way to gain a historical perspective and understanding of what the woman in the photo above is talking about. There is SO much information out there on this topic. You can start here to get a basic idea:
That’s a historical timeline highlighting the major points of the movement. All the legal victories, the losses, and the overall fierce tenacity of women fighting against governmental laws that not only allowed but enforced physical abuse onto them from their husbands. You ask for proof that patriarchy exists. Well, all the proof you need is in the sheer number of laws, the incredibly vast and insane amount of legal and social obstacles that women themselves have had to fight to overturn, have had to battle in court, in the workplace, in their own social circles, in their own homes, all in order to not be legally required to receive brutal beatings from their husbands on a regular basis.
Furthermore, there seems to be an implication in arguments like yours that the very word “Patriarchy” and the whole concept it describes was invented by feminists. It wasn’t. Oh my god it wasn’t. It is quite widely accepted as THE traditional way of life in many cultures around the world throughout history. The man is the head of the household, the head of the throne, the head of government and his power is eventually passed down to his son or to another man. Its why women traditionally take the man’s last name in marriage, and their kids are given the father’s last name too. To continue his heritage, his legacy, his power. ”Patri” = latin for “father”, “Archy” = latin for “ruling”. It literally translates to father-ruling. Its why Kim Jong-un took over after his father Kim Jong-il died 3 years ago. Its why that is globally considered normal and traditional. Its why in America we have only ever had male presidents.
Read one history book. Literally one history book. Literally, one fucking page from one fucking history book. Hell, it doesn’t even have to be a history book. Read a book. Any book. Read Beowulf. The Song of Roland. Agamemnon. Anything by Shakespeare. Literally any book with a king in it. Read the bible. Read a newspaper. Not even a whole newspaper. Just read one article. Oh my god you don’t even have to read. Watch literally any tv show or movie. Or just simply look around you and observe your own family structure. Maybe thats why people are saying, “If patriarchy exists, prove it!” and no ones bothering to prove it to them, not because its unprovable but because its such a stupid fucking request. Its everywhere, and its so obvious. It’s literally the same as asking for proof that Government exists. A term like “Patriarchy Theory” is not only dumb but dangerous because it erases history itself. It essentially takes all the hard work that people have spent millennia on, all of their struggles, all of their battles and all of their pain and labels it all as one giant fucking myth. Fuck that. Fuck that fucking term.
Now, sure women have more legal rights these days (in America anyways) which do help to keep them physically safe from abuse. But alot of the rights they have today are still fairly recent. For young people like us our whole concept of time in general is both limited and skewed. It all may seem like ancient, non-relevant history to younger people because alot of it happened just before we came into existence. We were born into a society that tells us, “Oh women have power now, its all good! Its all goddamn rainbows and sunshine now! Yay women!” But in the grand scheme of things, its still very new. Its still happening. Its an ongoing process that we were born in the middle of. The laws have changed but many people’s minds and core beliefs have not, which is why its still an ongoing struggle to not only enforce these laws but to ensure that the police officers, lawyers and judges today actually are enforcing these laws and keeping women safe.
As you said, “females have their value as a human being reaffirmed everyday whether locally or in the wider media.” That is true, to an extent. There are still a number of problems, beyond physical abuse, that should not be trivialized (such as women fighting to receive the same pay as their male counterparts for doing the exact same type and amount of work in the corporate world, i.e. The Glass Ceiling, and many, many, many other issues). But you’re right. Their value as human beings are reaffirmed daily. I see that too. And thank god that its finally happening.
Now, as a result of this I will also agree with the other points you bring up. We as young men in this period of time have been placed in a weird sort of limbo. Women are being liberated, but we as men are still being taught the historically traditional principle that being a man means being the leader, the head of the household, the money-maker, the decision maker, being strong, being assertive of his power, and above all NOT BEING ANYTHING REMOTELY LIKE A WOMAN AT ALL BECAUSE WOMEN ARE NOT THE LEADERS AND IF ANYONE MISTAKES A MAN FOR A NON-LEADER, A.K.A. a WOMAN, HIS ENTIRE FAMILY’S BELONGINGS, POWER AND SAFETY IS COMPROMISED AND HIS VERY EXISTENCE IS WORTHLESS.
And frankly, that shit is fucking stupid. It is way too much for a man to handle. That is an insane amount of pressure to put on anyone. Its why 80% of the world’s suicides are committed by men. Its why fathers are frustrated that its so hard to get custody of their children in divorce cases. Its why men are told they’re pieces of shit for not being able to afford to raise their kids. Traditionally, women are the care-takers, men are the money-makers. It has been like that for MILLENIA. You’re angry about. I’m angry about it. Cuz it sucks. Patriarchy sucks. Feminists are fucking right.
Here’s something else that sucks: We as males, especially the younger ones, are getting alot of mixed signals nowadays. As boys we’re told by one person, “As a man it is your duty to be _____”, then by another person, “No thats old, don’t be that. Be ____.” and someone else comes in and goes, “But thats gay. Be ____.” Double standards fucking everywhere. And we’re getting frustrated. But don’t you fucking dare blame that frustration on feminists, on women who are simply saying, “Hey, please respect me. Stop punching me. Stop killing me. Stop raping me. In fact, let me help you lead, and take on some of your responsibilities so its not all on you.”
Blame your frustration on the oppression that forced us as men to beat women, to kill them, to rape them, to lead all by ourselves and maintain that leadership by all means necessary.
But don’t stop there. Join in the movement seeking to liberate men from this oppression too. Not the bullshit MRA’s. The real movement. The one working WITH feminists:
or hell, my own blog
Oh my gosh, you came to such the right conclusion, I’m so proud! And look at that energy. So good. Thank you.
The news: A new scientific study from Princeton researchers Martin Gilens and Benjamin I. Page has finally put some science behind the recently popular argument that the United States isn’t a democracy any more. And they’ve found that in fact, America is basically an oligarchy.
An oligarchy is a system where power is effectively wielded by a small number of individuals defined by their status called oligarchs. Members of the oligarchy are the rich, the well connected and the politically powerful, as well as particularly well placed individuals in institutions like banking and finance or the military.
For their study, Gilens and Page compiled data from roughly 1,800 different policy initiatives in the years between 1981 and 2002. They then compared those policy changes with the expressed opinion of the United State public. Comparing the preferences of the average American at the 50th percentile of income to what those Americans at the 90th percentile preferred, as well as the opinions of major lobbying or business groups, the researchers found out that the government followed the directives set forth by the latter two much more often.
It’s beyond alarming. As Gilens and Page write, “the preferences of the average American appear to have only a minuscule, near-zero, statistically non-significant impact upon public policy.” In other words, their statistics say your opinion literally does not matter.
That might explain why mandatory background checks on gun sales supported by 83% to 91% of Americans aren’t in place, or why Congress has taken no action on greenhouse gas emissions even when such legislation is supported by the vast majority of citizens.
This problem has been steadily escalating for four decades. While there are some limitations to their data set, economists Thomas Piketty and Emmanuel Saez constructed income statistics based on IRS data that go back to 1913. They found that the gap between the ultra-wealthy and the rest of us is much bigger than you would think…I said this when I was in fucking ninth grade and wrote a twelve paged paper on it and my teacher told me that I was a conspiracy theorist and that I needed a realistic topic. ok.
I highkey was saying this all along
Yes. I, too, have been saying this for awhile now.